When it comes to life & love; do we search for "lessons" to lessen the pain?

Before I talk about today’s topic, ill like to introduce my co-authors Rashmi, Neha, & Drashti. These gals are my besties and have been there by my side as long as I can remember. Welcome my lovelies to LSD…

Another co-author is my dear friend Bimal. He is here to give us a male perspective & also because he basically pestered me to make him a co-author. No but really welcome Bee… I am glad to hear what you have to say…

So coming back to today’s topic do we always look for lessons to lessen the pain?

I think,”yes we do”... Its always a way of telling ourselves no matter how much we fucked up or how much someone else fucked up, its alright because at least we learnt from it.

Every messed up relationship or life situation is supposedly part of a plan that is supposed to teach you something. Every person in your life comes for a reason and has a role to play in it.

But if all of this is already planned, what’s my role in it? And in this case, what is it that I am exactly learning from it?

Everything happens for the best is a phrase thrown at me everyday…What exactly is the best I am still to find out.

The truth is we are so afraid to admit that we made a mistake or hurt someone or fucked up or so ashamed of admitting that we trusted the wrong people that we want to blame it on some kind of plan that’s meant to be.

So yes, we always look for lessons to lessen the pain of having made a horrible error in judgment by trusting someone who is not worthy of it, or the pain of hurting someone who put their faith in you.

Either way, I wonder when will I grow up enough to start doing things that aren’t painful in the first place so I don’t have to try and convince myself it’s okay Yachna, at least you learnt from it…

Do we need drama in relationships for them to be real??

My friend and I met after the longest time & in our attempt to catch up we spoke about things that keep our minds busy as single women between the ages of 25-35 yrs. And then we realized no matter what type of woman you might be, ambitious or laid back, intelligent or otherwise, innocent or cunning ; "dating , sex & relationships" (in this order) are always tricky and raise lots of doubts in our minds...Also we are very inspired by the women in Sex & the City... So we have decided to take up each doubt that comes to our head and talk about it...People who read this are more than welcomed to give their opinion...


So with no further ado, our topic for today : Do we need drama in relationships for them to be real??

Having had my fair share of LSD & having kissed major frogs in my life: I have realized if I am involved there will be Drama. I have won awards for being a Drama Queen & found myself creating drama out of nothing just  to make life interesting. Having said that, I want to add that if one is as dramatic as I am , having a relationship with someone as dramatic can be a maddening experience.. It might feel like a storybook romance initially but the endings could be rather "disastrous" au contraire "happily ever after". Even though the other person might seem like he is easily available or too easy & you might think its boring or something is wrong with that; believe me women there is nothing wrong. If someone doesn't sweep you off your feet & you don't fall head over heels in love with them; does not mean that something is wrong; it only means the person is real and even without the drama he will stand beside you ( or in my case; in spite of the drama).

So yes, relationships can be real even without Drama and even if there is Drama make sure you are the one creating it & not the other person. Life is too short & its best to keep it simple..


That's my view but i sure want to know what you other ladies think..Feel free to comment and soon ill be taking up another doubt that pops in my head...

Till my next post ..xoxo..