Before I talk about today’s topic, ill like to introduce my co-authors Rashmi, Neha, & Drashti. These gals are my besties and have been there by my side as long as I can remember. Welcome my lovelies to LSD…
Another co-author is my dear friend Bimal. He is here to give us a male perspective & also because he basically pestered me to make him a co-author. No but really welcome Bee… I am glad to hear what you have to say…
So coming back to today’s topic do we always look for lessons to lessen the pain?
I think,”yes we do”... Its always a way of telling ourselves no matter how much we fucked up or how much someone else fucked up, its alright because at least we learnt from it.
Every messed up relationship or life situation is supposedly part of a plan that is supposed to teach you something. Every person in your life comes for a reason and has a role to play in it.
But if all of this is already planned, what’s my role in it? And in this case, what is it that I am exactly learning from it?
Everything happens for the best is a phrase thrown at me everyday…What exactly is the best I am still to find out.
The truth is we are so afraid to admit that we made a mistake or hurt someone or fucked up or so ashamed of admitting that we trusted the wrong people that we want to blame it on some kind of plan that’s meant to be.
So yes, we always look for lessons to lessen the pain of having made a horrible error in judgment by trusting someone who is not worthy of it, or the pain of hurting someone who put their faith in you.
Either way, I wonder when will I grow up enough to start doing things that aren’t painful in the first place so I don’t have to try and convince myself it’s okay Yachna, at least you learnt from it…
My dearest Yach...I believe we will never grow up! :) And why should we grow up??? There are very few and rare people who have the courage to follow their heart and take chances that nobody else will..and we are them! It doesn't matter whether we fuck up or we let others fuck around with our heart's and lives...all that really matters is that we do what makes us 'happy' even though it's momentarily in that phase of life. We trust the wrong people, we give more than we get, we forgive, we forget and we get heartbroken all over again...but what the heck! WE LOVE AND WE LIVE! :) So there's neither a need to wonder nor find the meaning to the lessons we've learnt coz the bottomline is that we don't need lessons! The heart can't be taught...it just knows how to rule! :) Let's just be ourselves and let our heart's rule...Someday somehow it'll find us our thrown and we'll sit there happily ever after!
ReplyDeleteFirst, Thanks for inviting me to contribute to this blog, I am happy to do whatever you ask me to do.
ReplyDeleteBefore I give my opinion on this topic I want have to first say that I agree with Drashti but just like everything else you cannot choose how you think. So I am glad you are honest and openly talking about this.
Now I have been asked to represent Mars and that is what I will do so please allow me to be generic whenever I can.
So coming back to the topic,
I think that more than lessons I view them as experiences. Lessons tend to focus on mistakes but experiences can be good or bad and you just have to enjoy them. In hindsight you can judge your actions to be right or wrong but if you always believe that you did what you wanted to and were true to yourself then no past decisions should feel wrong.
Like I said earlier, I tend to agree with Drashti and I just want to piggy back on her comments because I do not want to restate all the girly stuffs in my comments but being yourself is the best thing you can do. Lessons and pains are better viewed as experiences and life is about gaining as much experience as we can.